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Quit Your Whingeing! Winning Business Advice for Severe Complainers

Crying Over Spilt Milk? Get over it, here's winning advice for complaining & procrastinating business owners.

Written by Ben Angel 2009, Topics:   Personal / Business Development / Time Management

You fight an ongoing battle with the thoughts in your head day to day and on some days you just lose. 

It sucks the life right out of you (and not in a good way either), leaving you dull, defeated, frustrated and sometimes even angry. 

It’s your emotions and if you let them, they’ll run circles around you. They’ll drain every ounce of energy you have that could have been better spent on achieving your goals and desires rather than spent on time wasting life sucking complaining and whingeing. But no! You let them run your life.

The good news is that you don’t have to be a whingeing sad sack of crap forever. You’ve just chosen too and you can easily choose an alternative.

I’ve personally had a lot to complain about in my life. I struggled with depression for six years, watched my dad slowly die in hospital due to a brain tumour at the age of 51, plus a whole myriad of other challenges I’ve been put up against. And you know what? There’s nothing like death to teach us how to live.

The interesting thing that losing a loved one does to you is that it puts everything into crystal clear perspective. Is that tiny little argument really worth it? What’s the worst thing that’s going to happen to you if you don’t get your own way? Are you going to die? Probably not! Are you going to suffer immeasurable pain? Once again, probably not! So why oh why, do we get so upset when we interact with certain individuals or are faced with specific circumstances?

I’ll tell you why. Because we are hooked on the chemical reactions we get from responding in a certain way. Every little emotion you experience sets off a flood of chemical reactions within your body. These reactions can make you feel great or they can make you feel like death warmed up. It is by getting a certain pay off from these reactions that we choose to keep responding in specific ways to get our little chemical kick. This is at least until we become aware of our own unconscious reactions and start to make conscious decisions on the way we feel moment to moment.

So why you may be asking would someone create havoc in their own life like I did? For me when I was going through depression, it was the payoff of having people worried or concerned about me. It generated attention. In a sick kind of way it made me feel special. I wasn’t conscious of this at the time as I was playing the record in my head called, ‘Victim.’ It wasn’t until I became aware of these payoffs that I was able to improve my life. It took years of work I might add but it was necessary.

We each receive a certain payoff for responding in the way that we do, in business and in life. Otherwise, quite literally we simply would not do it. What benefits do you receive from; over-reacting, being quick to anger or even feeling upset about your current business circumstances? Work that out and the battles half won.   The next part of the challenge is to simply observe yourself when you choose these emotions. Things magically change when you observe what’s going on.     

It is your choice how you feel. You can choose to feel happy, sad or angry in any given moment. What do you choose right now? Hmmm, I’m thinking of Superman mixed with a good dose of Batman. Yeah, I think that will do me for now.

From the Bed of Ben. 

Ben Angel is the author of the new controversial book, ‘Sleeping Your Way to The Top in Business – The Ultimate Guide to Attracting & Seducing More Customers.’ Go to www.benangel.com.au to grab your copy today and see what the media have been saying about it.

Posted by Ben Angel on 16th October, 2009 | Comments | Trackbacks
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