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Flirt Your Way to a Promotion

Studies have shown that flirting is great for your health but is it great for your career?

A study done by the University of Alabama (2003) found that individuals with low flirtatious activity tended to correlate with low energy levels. Wow - lethargic and frigid, what an attractive combination…

The university study also demonstrated that these great lethargic lumps of frigid grey pudding (maybe they used more scientific language, I can’t remember now…) thought of themselves as less attractive than their
flirtatious counterparts. I don’t think we need a study to tell us that.

You see our thoughts create our reality, and then our reality shows up just exactly the way we asked it to.

Flirting is just another form of energy and as a nifty skill it can work some pretty instant magic for you at work and in your personal life. You see, flirting is NOT just about sex it is about connecting and making another person feel good about themselves.

Here’s the dictionary’s definition: To flirt is to behave as though attracted to or trying to attract someone, but for amusement rather than with serious intentions.

It is the intent behind the flirting that is important to understand.

My research has found that there are two different types of flirting, romantic and platonic. If you have seen flirting go bad then it is most likely that there was an underlying romantic intention behind it thereby sending it way off track.

Once you have separated the two, this powerful tool can be utilised to help you connect with others like never before especially in the workplace.

Leaving a lasting impression (for all the right reasons) is what you should always be aiming for when you network and interact with other colleagues.

Use this influential checklist to make sure you’re ticking all the boxes:

- Make eye contact
- Smile frequently
- Compliment their personal style- only if you mean it (clothes, attitude, brand)
- Compliment their professional achievements
- Be playful in your interactions
- Joke (but without ever resorting to being overtly sexual)
- Make them laugh at least once every time they see you
- And most importantly, see the conversation as your chance to play, enjoy and experience one another positively for mutual benefit

Is flirting risky? Sometimes, yes! Your playful nature may be misinterpreted as a sexual advance. However, this only ever happens when there is sexual energy present in the first place (was it lurking in the background when the engagement, lunch or dinner was set up, for example?).

Trust your intuition: you will always know ahead of time if the interaction is about to go too far and stray into unwanted territory. Just make a conscious decision to pull it back and remain professional after all we each
teach others how to treat us.

Now, stop reading and go and flirt your arse off!


Ben’s book “Sleeping Your Way to The Top in Business” is available for purchase by clicking here. For media, consulting and speaking enquiries contact Ben directly at ben@benangel.com.au

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